Modern women do not possess the ability to listen, because they like to talk, give advice and criticism. This again action. And listen - is a passive action, but filled with the inner workings and on. And it's feminine. A real woman all her activity, all the work is inside, not outside.
Why do I need to learn to listen:
- A woman who knows how to listen, it is extremely attractive to men!
- Listening to a man, you are casting a respect for him. All that he says to you paramount. Ask yourself if you learn how to do it, how do you think your relationship will improve?
- You can learn to truly your man: he lives than what is important to him, what he wants to aspire to. And, as it happens - only the man begins to speak, we are beginning to yawn, to interrupt, run to feed the children, etc. And then we wonder why the relationship turned into a habit... A man should not be a habit and a habit for you. Learn to listen, and you will always hear something new, which means that every time a man will open with all sides.
- The ability to listen very feminine intuition sharpens. You will not only listen, but notice all the nuances in the behavior of men. You will learn to feel your man.
One woman wrote to me about the betrayal of his wife that he cheated on her for three years, and she did not know. As you know, these stories - is not uncommon. But I have one question for the woman: - How can you not notice and did not feel it three years? If you listen to her man, the first thing he will never go to another woman, and secondly, if it and go, then this is for you to become known on the first day.
- Learn to listen, you can very easily read, understand and capture the mood of the men, which means that conflicts will be less. The home will reign peace and harmony.
What to listen to?
This does not just sit back and be silent and think about the problems, concerns and experiences. Most often we listen to each other that way, or are waiting for the right moment to insert its own "5 cents". We have a stupid habit to judge and evaluate, without waiting until the end.
Listening - it is in the interest of the interlocutor, the interest in what he thinks, what he wants, it is a desire to hear what he wants to convey. This also manifests humility and it is very feminine skill.
Hearing Rules:
- Do not interrupt. This needs to learn. To say it simply, difficult to put into practice. Always there is a desire to give advice, to insert his vision of the situation. He says this is just one thing that you do not care for the person and what he thinks and speaks. If not, Hear to the end.
Discussions are not always cloudless and calm, the man can speak to some controversial and problematic topics, and you want to criticize his words, to give advice. In giving advice, we clatter manhood. Man's dignity is fundamentally different from the female, and it sounds: I did!
A man is important to find a solution to the problem and to get out of a difficult situation. If you did not ask for advice, and you give it, you "turn on mom." Keep this in mind.
- Do not get distracted. I noticed that when I do not want to listen to chto-to, the object of distraction is always as if by chance something on the stove chto-nibud lit, the machine dostirala, and if not removed immediately, the linen and so somnet .. etc. you yourself know better than me how we abstract: children name, to feed, etc. A man sits and does not understand what is the place in your life it takes after the laundry and soup.
He feels your lack of respect for him and the lack of interest and it is a man deeply hurt. Learn everything not to be distracted, if the man says, even if it will be for you the most important. All matters and issues can wait until the man says. Moreover, they do not tell hunters, unlike females.
-. Be at this moment benevolent Most look in his eyes, if you really listen, you do not have special nod and ugukat (such advice is given to the practical psychology). Your partner will understand and so that you hear it. If you are brewing resistance and opposition that says partner, think about women's flexibility and the fact that the woman does not have to be right. Do you prefer to be right or happy?
- Learn to smile at the man , even in the face will be easy smile, coming from the heart. You are calm, benevolent and positive about what he might say to you. Men adore women confident and calm, dignified women who own and are able to manage their negative emotions.
- And be careful that your judgments and comments were not definitive and direct, critical and harsh. And there are no negative comments. Even if you feel right, never did not defend a man they are right, in any matters. Men is very hurt. Then you will wonder why a man to argue with you, is rude to you and puts you firmly "in place". Be gentle and kind, no matter what.
When a woman gives and takes a step back, the man makes the ten steps toward the woman.
Given the above, you have wanted to learn this? And it does not appear if you have what some images when it comes to honoring the man and committed a hearing?
For example, a geisha. The first art, which is owned by geisha - is the ability to listen to a man with admiring eyes. But Japanese girls brought up from childhood - in the deepest reverence and respect for the man. And we were brought up in a different way, so you have to learn this "
Author: Tatiana Dzutseva
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