SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH A GENTLEMAN OF VENERABLE AGE - A VERY BAD IDEA

If you're 30 and he 45 - this is not your case. But if you captured the aged Prince 20-25 years older - it is better to limit the flirtation or a short novel. Serious relationship with a gentleman of venerable age - a very, very bad idea. At least for these reasons.

HE MAY BE AN OLD BACHELOR

A man who has never been married or had a long and short-lived. Men who were not really serious, and indeed long relationship. Do you know why? Because he had never wanted to. And he does not want to right now. The problem is that the alleged serious novel in a couple of years of its duration, and is quite happy to let you go before he does not want.

And do not hope that you will be able to easily leave or, on the contrary, for him to become the very first and only woman to whom he finally married.

"I'll be in a different way" - a myth, which is very dangerous to believe. Because it - the pros, and you are not even a lover, and so prigotovishka.

How many have you had noteworthy novels? Three? Five? Do not tell his moccasins. Before you he very successfully manipulated dozens of women. And no one is not married. What are you, with his scanty (for him) life experience, you can counter this?

MOST LIKELY, HE PYGMALION SYNDROME

But suppose your honey is not a confirmed bachelor, and a man, who due to various reasons turned out to be free in adulthood. What's wrong with this great option? The fact that he might suffer the syndrome of Pygmalion. That is not to suffer and enjoy. Thou shalt suffer.

As you remember, the Greek sculptor Pygmalion carved a beautiful statue, called Galatea and immediately in love with her - well, he's an ideal set up. Then the unfortunate pity mighty Aphrodite statue and revived. And they lived happily ever after. Very cute myth. Especially when you consider that prior to meeting with the Pygmalion Galatea was just a piece of ivory. And you're still a human being. And the meeting with the man with the syndrome Pygmalion anything good do not bring.

Very often mature man starts a relationship with a young woman, hoping to remake it "for themselves." To put it bluntly - house trained. Yes, like a dog. They do not even hide it: "Find yourself a young fool, and make her comfortable wife." It is - frankly moral violence. And not the fact that you immediately recognize the problem.

YOU HAVE A DIFFERENT CULTURAL BACKGROUND

"Our common childhood on some Primer." - Who is singing? If you're thirty, you probably know. If less - hardly. Well, never mind, although it was Makarevich. The problem is that you have with your dear all, there was no general childhood. And the general youth. You - people of different generations. This man perfectly understand your mother, but will not understand you. As, however, and you're it. This is another myth rough - "people are always the same." No. People are always different. As may be the same people, one of whom spent his youth under Vysotsky's songs, and the other - the songs Lagutenko?

ADJUST TO BE YOU

Someday you check it out for yourself, but for now just believe in the word that people in advanced age are not able to change their habits. And do not want to. Because it is extremely difficult. So we are organized, and there is nothing we can do about it. And now remember their experience serious relationship: as soon as "candy buketnogo" period begins during lapping.

Partners are adjusted to each other, to find what is the state in which all are satisfied. So, you will adjust to you and only you. It is nothing in itself will not change for the sake of your relationship, and not even because he did not want. He just can not. When you do so for decades, and not otherwise, from the hackneyed track has no way out. It's a tricky feature of our brain that is always looking for easy ways. In general, do not count on a compromise. They will not.

YOU WILL LOSE YOUR FRIENDS

There is such a thing - ageism. Age discrimination. Originally, the term was coined to refer to discrimination as older people. But Russian sociologists have criticized this notion: why only older? We ageism works in the opposite direction! There is nothing to be proud of, but it's true: the problem of "fathers and children" is still relevant. This means that your man will never accept your friends. They are for him "too stupid". And, if you risknesh invite her lover to a party for your friends, you will feel as if he brought in a decent society hyena on a string. Yes, he is biting, yelp, and even shit under the table. That is, it probably will venture ugly quarrel on the subject of "this generation - this generation of idiots." And you, of course, lose their friends. Maybe forever.

AND DO NOT WILL ACQUIRE NEW

Do not think the same way, that will acquire new friends: close your man will never be close to you. The best that you can count - for leniency: "The beauty of what a fool" of men and "The beauty of what the baby" by the women. All that is important to you now, they have already experienced. They do not talk about with you - well, apart from the fact that they are always ready to teach. Remember about ageism? You bump into him, even if his friends will treat you kindly. And about any full-fledged friendship can be no question, of course. Why fifty women to be friends with you, twenty-five? She dreams of a decent retirement, and your not even begun.If she is married, she has long "fused" with her husband in a coherent whole, and you are on the threshold of a new relationship. She may soon be grandchildren, and you are only thinking about the children. What can I say - it is in concert "Cinema", "eighth-grader" voice. And you even born already before Choi did not? Or not yet?

HE MUST HAVE CHILDREN

And they - your peers or slightly younger than you. And if you think this is not a problem - you are deeply mistaken. Because these children have a mother. And even if your man left her when you walked on foot under the table, the children will compare you with her. Not in your favor, of course. However, there is another way, it's true: you can quite make friends with them. But only if they want to. And if you do not want, you have to put up with the fact that his life is, and always will be people who hate you. And somehow to live with it. Enjoy a little, to be honest.

SINCE IT IS DIFFICULT TO RAISE CHILDREN TOGETHER

If the children in your man is still there, new babies, he might not want to. What for? What's the point to go through all these difficulties again, that's when they gotovenkoe descendants: already grown, already adults. And even if he wants to have more children, you must understand that you will not see any of his father's trembling. It's the first time for you. This pregnancy for you - suddenly opened the inner universe, and the child - the center of your world. The man who raised the children, everything is different. To him, your total child - a child. Nothing special. He is already experienced.

And if he still did not have children - it gets worse: the fathers of venerable age for some reason, almost always turn into troublesome to hens paranoechkoy. The child will grow under glass - and then who knows what! Selling more! It's hard. For you. Because the glass cover to keep - your responsibility.

YOU OPEN A NEW WORLD - A VERY UNPLEASANT

The world of which you are likely to know that is not enough. World of doctors, hospitals and medicines. As we age, we are all somewhere to break, this does not go away. And you somehow, but will be involved in all the problems of his body to the city. His back aches in the morning. He can not carouse all night - and then two days in bed will lie. He must regularly take medication and be examined, because it does have some kind of chronic sore. Hypertension. Ulcer.Hemorrhoids. Are you sure you really want to know all this?

HE WAS PATHOLOGICALLY JEALOUS

Exceptions to this rule occur, but they are very rare. Every young man who will be next to you, your honey will see a potential rival. Because any youngster in the future will get all that already have your man: life experience, and financial well-being nowhere on it does not disappear, if he is not a fool. And here at your man will no longer be strong, young and beautiful body. All compactly. And if you think that jealousy is pleasant to you, you are mistaken. Because many young men. Lots of. So it's easier to rob you of personal freedom: roll your wild scenes of late 5 crumple, to arrange interviews with addiction and to require proof of your permanent love. Twas the story.

YOU TOO MUCH FOR HIM

As we age, we become less emotional, it's true. Reproach of the nervous system should be protected. Experiences that filled your week, a woman his own age will last for a month, and he himself - for a year. What makes you seriously worry, they already lived and experienced. If he has not developed empathy, you do not get any support, "What t s nonsense toil, everything goes, and it too." If empathy is his highly developed, you move away from it. Because you are too much for him. He was heavily involved in a number of joys and challenges. Tu mAh.

AND ANOTHER THING ...

Forced to disappoint you, but erectile dysfunction younger. Especially in the big cities. So perhaps, in front of you 10 years of an active sex life and then ... And then you will be 40, and he was - 65. And, you know, in this pleasant little. Very little. And it will have the most pleasant literally extract. And, since we're talking about sex, it is important to understand this: it has all happened before. What for you - an exciting discovery for him - a nice repetition of the material.It seems to us that this is not very interesting. Especially considering the fact that even this joy, in general, not for long.